Mehndi, Haldi, Engagement Aur Doosri Shaadi Ki Rasmon Mein Shirkat Aur Khana Khaane Ka Hukm

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Question

Assalamu Alaikum,

Aaj kal shaadiyon se pehle engagement, baat pakki, haldi, mehndi, bride-to-be aur is tarah ki mukhtalif rasmon ka bahut riwaaj ho gaya hai. Rishtedaar, padosi aur dost inki dawat mein bahut israar karke bulaate hain. Na jaane par baar-baar phone karte hain aur kabhi naaraaz bhi ho jaate hain.

Kya aisi rasmon ki dawat mein shirkat karna aur wahan khana khaana jaiz hai? Bara-e-karam shar'i rehnumayi farmaayein.

Response

Wa Alaikumussalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu.

Aaj kal shaadi-byaah ke mauqe par rusoomaat ki aisi kasrat ho gayi hai ke un sab ka ihaata karna bhi mushkil hai. Har ilaqe mein alag-alag, balke aaye din nayi-nayi rasmein saamne aa rahi hain. Baaz rasmein toh aisi hain jo pehle tasawwur se bhi baahar thin. Afsos yeh hai ke inmein se bahut si rasmein fuzool-kharchi, be-pardagi, mardo aur aurton ke ghair-shar'i ikhtilat, gaane-baaje, numaish aur logon par maali bojh ka sabab ban rahi hain.

Shariat ne nikah ko aasaan banaya hai aur khushi ke izhaar ki ijazat di hai, lekin use beja rusoomaat aur takallufaat ka majmua nahi banaya.

Usooli taur par yeh samajhna zaroori hai ke har woh rasm jo Sunnat se saabit nahi, laziman haraam bhi nahi hoti. Aadaat aur mu'ashrati maamlaat mein asal ibahat hai, basharte ke unmein koi shar'i mumani'at na ho. Albatta koi rasm aam ho jaane se bhi shar'an jaiz nahi ho jaati.

Masalan rishta tay karna ya nikah ka waada karna apni asal mein jaiz hai, lekin mangni se nikah ke ahkaam saabit nahi hote. Ladka aur ladki nikah tak ek doosre ke liye na-mehram hi rehte hain. Isi tarah aurton ka mehndi lagana apni jagah jaiz hai, magar iske liye ghair-shar'i taqreebaat ka ihtimam karna ek alag masla hai.

Khaas taur par aaj kal bride-to-be, haldi, mehndi aur is tarah ki taqreebaat mein aksar ghair-shar'i ikhtilat, be-pardagi, naach-gaane, tasweeron ki numaish aur doosri qabahatein paayi jaati hain. Inmein se har cheez ko uski haqeeqat ke mutabiq dekhna zaroori hai, lekin in rusoomaat ko be-qaydah badhawa dena kisi tarah munasib nahi.

Balke agar kisi rasm mein filhaal koi khuli shar'i kharaabi na bhi ho, tab bhi in rasmon ke badhte hue silsile ki hosla-afzaai nahi honi chahiye. Kyunke jab aisi taqreebaat mu'ashre mein riwaaj pakad leti hain, toh dheere-dheere unhein zaroori samjha jaane lagta hai. Phir ek doosre ki naqal, numaish, muqable-baazi aur logon ki tawaqqu'aat ki wajah se shaadi ke akhrajaat badhte chale jaate hain. Natijatan nikah, jise Shariat ne aasaan rakha hai, aam logon ke liye mushkil hota jaata hai. Allah Ta'ala ne fuzool-kharchi se bhi mana farmaya hai.

Ab aapke sawaalaat ke jawabaat mulahaza farmaaye:

1. Aisi Dawaton Mein Jaane Ka Hukm

Agar kisi taqreeb mein gaana-bajana, be-pardagi, na-mehramon ka ghair-shar'i ikhtilat ya doosre munkaraat hon aur pehle se iska ilm ho, toh aisi dawat mein shirkat karna jaiz nahi. Mezbaan ke baar-baar israar karne se bhi hukm nahi badlega.

Agar kisi shakhs ko dawat se pehle hi wahan munkaraat hone ka ilm ho, toh use usmein shirkat nahi karni chahiye.

Albatta agar koi taqreeb sirf rishtedaaron ke milne, mubarakbaad dene ya khana khilane tak mahdood ho aur usmein koi ghair-shar'i pehlu na ho, toh mahz kisi khaas naam se taqreeb hone ki wajah se use haraam nahi kaha jaayega.

Iske bawajood aisi ghair-zaroori rasmon ki hosla-afzaai se bachna chahiye, khaas taur par jab unki wajah se samaaj mein takalluf, fuzool-kharchi aur doosron par dabao badh raha ho. Jahan shirkat se kisi na-munaasib rasm ki taayeed ya uske riwaaj ko mazbooti milti ho, wahan shirkat se gurez karna behtar hai.

2. Aisi Dawaton Mein Khana Khaane Ka Hukm

Yahan khane aur taqreeb mein shirkat ke hukm mein farq samajhna zaroori hai.

Agar khana apni zaat mein halal ho aur halal maal se tayyar kiya gaya ho, toh mahz kisi ghair-masnoon rasm ke mauqe par pakne ki wajah se woh haraam nahi ho jaata.

Albatta agar us khane ko khaane ke liye aisi majlis mein shirkat karni pade jahan ghair-shar'i kaam ho rahe hon, toh sirf khana khaane ki gharaz se wahan jaana durust nahi.

Lekin agar koi rishtedaar aise mauqe ka khana alag se ghar bhej de, ya kisi aisi jagah khilaye jahan koi shar'i qabahat na ho, toh use khaane mein harj nahi, basharte ke khana aur uska zariya halal ho.

Ek Zaroori Naseehat

Shaadiyon mein phailti hui ghair-shar'i rusoomaat ki islaah aur hosla-shikni nihayat zaroori hai. Aaj inhi takallufaat aur kharchon ki wajah se nikah mushkil hota ja raha hai aur bahut se gharane maali aur zehni dabao ka shikaar hain.

Lekin islaah karte waqt aetadaal aur hikmat ka daaman bhi nahi chhodna chahiye. Na har rasm ko bila-tahqeeq haraam kaha jaaye aur na har dawat mein shirkat ko zaroori samjha jaaye.

Rishtedaaron ko mohabbat aur narmi se apna mauqif samjhaya jaaye. Unhein mubarakbaad di ja sakti hai, kisi doosre waqt mulaqaat ki ja sakti hai, aur is tarah silah-rahmi bhi baaqi rakhi ja sakti hai.

Maqsad logon se ta'alluqaat khatam karna nahi, balke ghair-shar'i rusoomaat ka khatma aur nikah ko aasaan banana hona chahiye.

Wallahu Ta'ala A'lam.

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