Nikah Ke Liye Ladki Ki Photo (Tasweer) Bhejna Ya Dikhana Jaiz Hai?
Answered by Mufti Naved Akhtar ·
Question
السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
Mufti Saab,
Aap se ek masla janna tha. Thoda rehnumayi farmayiye.
Ham aap se ye puchna chah rahe the ke Alhamdulillah hamari bacchi shari parde ke pabandi hai.
Puchna ye tha ke ab tak to shari parde ke pabandi ho rahi hai.
Bacchi ke liye rishta dhoond rahe hain.
Masla: Rishte marriage broker se aa rahe hain.
Puchna ye tha ke ab tak 2, 3 rishte aaye hain lekin marriage broker ko humne bacchi ki tasweer nahi di thi. Itna kaha tha ke ladke wale aayein, jo jo mehram rishtedaar hain wo aayein, direct ladki ko dekhein.
Aise do teen rishte aaye, direct ghar ko aaye, ladki ko dekhe aur kuch reason se wo set nahi hue. Iske baad aage jo bhi rishte aa rahe hain, wo tasweer ki maang kar rahe hain. Tasweer agar broker ke hath mein chali gayi to na broker par bharosa hai na ladke walon ka bharosa hai ke tasweer aam ho jayegi, yani har na-mehram bhi tasweer dekh lenge.
Kuch rishta aisa aaya tha ke ladki ko dekhne har ek aayenge, yani har na-mehram aayega jaise ke ladke ke behenwowi, ladke ke taya, mamu wagaira.
Bahout se rishte aise hi aaye, yani ladke ke behenwowi, taya, mamu (na-mehram). Hamne is wajah se rishte cancel kare.
Deen daar hain keh kar rishte aate hain aur riti riwaj rusumat ka sawal karte hain.
Is wajah se bhi hamari taraf se na hoti hai. Saadgi ka Sunnat ki maang rakhte hain, wo rishte wahi khamosh reh jate hain. To is mahaul mein hain ham.
Ab hame is masle mein rehnumayi farmayiye.
Kya is mahaul mein tasweer de sakte hain? Aur wo unke rishtedaar ke liye, yani na-mehram rishtedaar ko dikhate hain karke kehte hain. To is wajah se kya tasweer de sakte hain aur wo na-mehram ko dikha sakte hain ya nahi?
To is wajah se tasweer dein ya na dein, iski Shariat ki nazar mein rehnumayi farmayiye.
Jazakallahu Khaira.
Response
Wa Alaikumus Salaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
Alhamdulillah, yeh jaan kar khushi hui ke aapki beti shar‘i parde ki paband hain aur aap bhi unke liye aisa rishta talaash kar rahe hain jahan Deen aur Sunnat ki ri‘aayat ho. Allah Ta‘ala aapki beti ke liye behtareen, deendaar aur nek akhlaaq shohar ka intezaam farmaaye. Aameen.
Aapki pareshani bhi samajh mein aati hai. Aaj kal rishton ke silsile mein tasweer maangna aur mukhtalif rishtedaron ka ladki ko dekhne aana aam ho gaya hai. Aise mahaul mein parde ki hifazat bhi zaroori hai aur saath hi rishton ke silsile mein beja sakhti se bachna bhi zaroori hai.
Sabse pehle yeh samajh lijiye ke Shariat ne nikah ke iraade se ladke ko ladki dekhne ki ijazat di hai, balke iski targheeb bhi di hai.
Hazrat Mugheerah bin Shu‘bah (Radhiyallahu Anhu) ne jab ek aurat se nikah ka iraada kiya toh Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا، فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا
"Use dekh lo, kyunki yeh tum dono ke darmiyan muhabbat aur ulfat paida hone ke zyada qareeb hai."
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1087)
Isliye agar koi sanjeeda aur munasib rishta aaye toh ladke ko ghar bula kar, ghar walon ki maujoodgi mein, ladki ka chehra dekhne ka mauqa dene mein koi harj nahi. Is mauqe par ladki apna chehra aur haath dikha sakti hai, lekin baaqi shar‘i parde ki pabandi karegi.
Is ijazat ka maqsad yeh hai ke dono itminaan ke saath nikah ka faisla kar sakein. Isi tarah ladki ki pasand aur razamandi ko bhi poori ahmiyat di jaani chahiye.
Lekin Kya ladke ke tamaam ghair-mahram rishtedaron ko dikhana zaroori hai? Nahi. Shariat ne jis khaas maqsad ke liye ladke ko dekhne ki ijazat di hai, woh ijazat uske tamaam ghair-mahram rishtedaron ke liye nahi hai.
Ladke ke taya, mamu, behnoi aur doosre ghair-mahram rishtedaron ka ladki ko dekhne ke liye aana aur use apne saamne bithane par israar karna shar‘an durust nahi. Albatta sanjeeda rishte ki surat mein ladke ka sarparast, masalan uska walid, shahwat aur fitne ka andesha na hone ki shart par ladki ka chehra ek nazar dekh sakta hai. Is gunjaish ko aam ijazat samajh kar doosre ghair-mahram rishtedaron ko ladki dikhana durust nahi. Behtar phir bhi yeh hai ke ladke ki walida, behen ya doosri mu‘tabar khawateen ke zariye maaloomat haasil ki jaayein.
Tasweer bhejne ka masla:
Nikah ke liye ladki ko dekhne ki Shariat ne ijazat di hai, lekin is ijazat ka matlab yeh nahi ke ladki ki tasweer marriage broker ko de di jaaye ya mukhtalif ghair-mahram rishtedaron mein phailayi jaaye. Nikah ke liye dekhne ki ijazat ek khaas maqsad aur zaroorat ke tehat hai, isliye ise usi had tak mahdood rakhna chahiye.
Aapne jo surat bayan ki hai, usmein tasweer broker ko dena munasib nahi, kyunki isme is baat ka itminaan nahi ke tasweer mehfooz rahegi. Ek martaba tasweer doosron tak pahunch jaaye toh uske aage phailne par aapka ikhtiyar baaqi nahi rehta. Isliye aisi surat mein aap apni beti ki tasweer broker ko na dein.
Albatta iska matlab yeh nahi ke rishton ke raaste band kar diye jaayein. Jab koi sanjeeda aur munasib rishta aaye toh pehle zaroori maaloomat haasil kar li jaayein, phir ladke ki walida ya doosri mu‘tabar khawateen ladki ko dekh sakti hain. Uske baad ladka khud bhi shar‘i hudood ke andar ladki ko dekh sakta hai. Is tarah parde ki hifazat bhi hogi aur nikah ke maamle mein beja mushkil bhi paida nahi hogi.
Yeh baat bhi qaabil-e-ghaur hai ke jo ghar wale nikah se pehle hi ladki ke shar‘i parde ka ehtiraam karne ko tayyar nahi, balke use numaish ki kisi cheez ki tarah mukhtalif ghair-mahram rishtedaron ke saamne pesh karne par israar karte hain, unse aainda bhi is baat ka andesha hai ke woh ladki par ghair-shar‘i rasmo-riwaj aur khandani dabao ke tehat shar‘i hudood ko paamaal karne ke liye zor daalein.
Jo log rishta tay hone se pehle hi ladki ke deeni usoolon aur parde ka ehtiraam nahi kar rahe, unse nikah ke baad uske shar‘i huqooq aur deeni pabandiyon ke ehtiraam ki kya tawaqqo rakhi ja sakti hai? Lihaza aise mutalabaat ko mamooli samajh kar nazarandaaz nahi karna chahiye, balke rishta tay karte waqt is pehlu ko bhi sanjeedgi se dekhna chahiye.
Agar gharana waqai deendaar aur shar‘i parde ki ahmiyat ko samajhne wala hoga, toh woh aapke is mutalabe ko zaroor samjhega aur iska ehtiraam karega. Aur agar koi gharana is jaiz aur munasib mutalabe ko bhi tasleem karne ke liye tayyar nahi, toh aise rishte ke haath se nikal jaane par pareshan hone ki zaroorat nahi. Allah Ta‘ala se umeed rakhiye ke Insha Allah woh aapki beti ke liye isse behtar, deendaar aur uske shar‘i huqooq ka ehtiraam karne wala rishta muhayya farmaayega. Nikah mein sirf achha rishta milna maqsad nahi, balke aisa gharana milna bhi zaroori hai jahan beti apne Deen par itminaan aur izzat ke saath amal kar sake.
Iske alaawa bhi Saadgi aur Sunnat ke mutabiq nikah ka aapka mutalaba bilkul durust hai. Jahez, israaf aur ghair-shar‘i rasmo-riwaj par samjhauta na karein. Albatta jin umoor mein Shariat ne gunjaish rakhi hai, unmein beja sakhti ke bajaye narmi aur hikmat se kaam lein. Baaz auqaat log mahaul aur riwaj ki wajah se kisi baat par israar karte hain, lekin samjhane se maan jaate hain. Isliye har ikhtilaf par foran rishta rad karne ke bajaye pehle baat-cheet aur islaah ki koshish karein.
Wallahu Ta‘ala A‘lam.
Bada'i al-Sana'i, 5/122
وكذا إذا أراد أن يتزوج امرأة فلا بأس أن ينظر إلى وجهها وإن كان عن شهوة
Al-Mabsut, 10/155
وكذلك إن كان أراد أن يتزوجها فلا بأس بأن ينظر إليها وإن كان يعلم أنه يشتهيها
Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1087
انظر إليها فإنه أحرى أن يؤدم بينكما
Sharh Mukhtasar al-Karkhi, 9/341:
وَقَدْ بَيَّنَّا جَوَازَ النَّظَرِ إِلَى وَجْهِ الْأَجْنَبِيَّةِ وَيَدِهَا إِذَا كَانَتْ هُنَاكَ حَاجَةٌ، وَإِنَّمَا يُكْرَهُ النَّظَرُ لِغَيْرِ حَاجَةٍ؛ لِأَنَّهُ لَا يُؤْمَنُ مَعَهُ الشَّهْوَةُ.